I’ve been looking for a partner for quite some time now. Not in the romantic sense, rather someone to do things with. Someone to match my tempo, interests and ambitions. Someone to grow and build things with.
I say someone, because that’s what I thought I was looking for. One person to do all of this with and for me. To have one person match all of my interests, challenge me where it’s needed, give me encouragement when needed and to support when they need it is quite impossible.
I realised this a couple of days ago when sitting in my best friends’ apartment, talking to him and one of my other closest friends. We talked about a book that we’d all read, and that David wanted to discuss with Helena and me. And I realised that it was David inviting us, but he did it to be challenged and to learn. And for me and Helena to be challenged and learn.
What I need isn’t one person to fill all of my needs. I need a group of tribes all of which fill different needs. And I need friends in those tribes that fill certain needs.
Some friends are going to go in more tribes. Some friends are going to fill different needs in different tribes and activities. David, for example, challenge me a lot in training. He’s a lot stronger than I am, and so he can easily challenge me. I challenge him when it comes to building projects and taking on new things, as I’ve been doing those tings for years.
Find your tribes. Find the people in the tribes that you gain from. That you can grow with.