One of my important teachings from the past couple of years has been the one of making decisions. I’ve been making some that have been very good for me and some that have been less so. The point is that I’ve been making them.
At one point, I realised that I was asking myself a question that wasn’t really benefiting me. I was asking “This or that?”, the or being the weakest part of that question.
If something’s engaging enough, it can be added. If something’s not engaging enough, it shouldn’t be in there at all. “This or that?” Makes the presumption that either this or that should be done, when both or neither maybe should.
Be aware of what questions you ask when making decisions. Today, I often use the statement “And, not or.”, to give some emphasis to the fact that we’re able to do both in most cases. It’s a question of priority. You can do “and”, you just might not want to.